The days of a married woman sitting at home all day doing housework while her husband stumbled home late and drunk are long gone. Things are better today in terms of being able to go out and have fun with your single friends since it makes the home environment more pleasant and healthy when you both go out to have some exciting moments with friends.
But, to be honest, just as a married woman does not want her husbands to be late, she should also arrive early. Married women should even arrive home earlier than their spouses because they have greater domestic chores and responsibilities to attend to than their husbands.
A married man can go away for a few weeks or even months and have no impact on the family, but if a married woman does the same, the impact will undoubtedly be felt by both the husband and the children owing to the significance of her role in the family.
Being a housewife demands skills, effort, and competence, as well as a suitable amount of time spent at home to perform the menial responsibilities of caring for the children and cleaning, which is why you don’t want to stay out for a long time or come home late.
Although there is nothing wrong with staying out late as long as you have a genuine reason and your partner is aware of your whereabouts, but even though you have your partner’s permission, staying out late is still not ideal for a married lady or even anyone at all because the darkness of the night will always be with danger.
Men are different; there are distrusting and suspicious husbands (which is their behavior and has nothing to do with you) as well as those who naturally trust their partners unless you give them reason not to, and depending on the man you marry, you may be more free or more confined than other married women around you; there are also some husbands who prefer that their wife stays at home, particularly for the sake of the children.
There are however some men who believe they are capable of handling all of the family’s finances, thus they require their women not to work and instead stay at home as full-time housewives although this is now less prevalent but still practiced for a variety of reasons.
Although some insecure men have strange fears that their wives will be snatched at work, and other men (and some cultures) fear that if a woman earns and pays some of the family bills, she will become bossy and rebellious against her husband (which may be partially true depending on the nature of the woman), the main reason however that men ask their wives to be home full time is due to the value and magnitude of her responsibilities at home.
However, being married as a woman is still enjoyable, so you don’t have to feel like you’re going to work all day; you can still hang out with friends and have some fun in your spare time, but the main point is not to go out and have fun to the point where you forget your responsibility as a housewife.
Single life or being in a relationship is very different from being married; those days are for fun, parties, and the freedom to go anywhere at any time; getting married, on the other hand, does not mean you have lost your freedom or ability to have fun; it simply means you have taken on more responsibilities, and you just have to adjust to the new normal.
You don’t want to close from the office and go somewhere else other than your home because your husband or probably your kids have been anticipating your arrival and if at all you’ll be branching some places before finally going home, you need to put a call through to your husband to inform him about what you’re up to and when to expect you so neither he nor the kids (if any yet) is worried about your whereabout.
Even after phoning and informing your family of your plans, it’s essential to finish things fast and get home early enough to fulfill your menial tasks as the wife and mother of the home. But, once again, being a housewife does not preclude you from relating with people and having a social life.
Ultimately, there is no fixed time to come home as a married woman, and your arrival depends on many factors such as the nature of your work and how long it takes to get home. It is important to keep in mind, however, that you have some values to offer and responsibilities to take care of at home, and this should be the driving force for you to keep to time and not keep late nights.